When Do You Become an Adult?


As an aspect of our society, many people believe that we are an official adult when we reach to the age of eighteen or twenty one. Yes, we are able to speak freely, make our own choice and do things that we cannot do as a kid. However, we may only be biologically and legally known as an adult instead of actually being mentally mature enough to handle responsibilities as one. One can be young, but have a sophisticated mindset while others can be older and have a naive mindset. Psychologist Carol Dweckis interpret the word mindset as “a self-perception or “self-theory” that people hold about themselves.” If one know what’s right and wrong, they simply conquer the first step of  acknowledgement as the base of being an adult. As a child” we have all the time in the world to explore and to develop our imagination harmlessly.


As Roman Payne quotes:
“Wandering is the activity of the child, the passion of the genius; it is the discovery of the self, the discovery of the outside world, and the learning of how the self is both ‘at one with’ and ‘separate from’ the outside world. These discoveries are as fundamental to the soul as ‘learning to survive’ is fundamental to the body…To wander is to be alive.”


Our childhood is a very important process for our transition to adulthood because it is the process in which our personalities and mentalities form from. Also, it is a very attentive stage of life. In particular, kids commonly pick up various details and learn from things that we do, whether we intend it or not. For example, a young girl saw an adult helping an elderly that is in needs and the next day, she saw an older man having trouble crossing the street so she kindly insists to help him. That was an example of a sense of taking care of others. Most importantly, we flourish from our childhood experiences.


Generally, begin an adult are determined by just what we are allowed to do instead of what we are capable of doing.
Everyone’s experience is different and individually unique. Adulthood are often consists of many different aspects and it is most certainly not an easy part of life. A person may notice that many skills will begin to come into play as we built on the role of being morally responsible. Those skills included the basic decision making, trust, time management, understanding and many more.


As we begin to go into adulthood, we began to give contribution to the society. We would devote to people inside and outside of our safe zone. We start off by taking care of our family we was born in then to creating our own family. Building a family require unconditional love and a very personal sacrifice of time and freedom. As a matter of fact, we would come to realize what’s important in our life and how to take situations seriously. Our choices are likely to be guided by the values in which we are committed to and how that reflect a reasonable process that leads to your decisions.


To put it in perspective, an individual will come to realize the importance of other people. Most likely, we would recite on what people with more experiences had told us and take their advice. At that point, facing the reality and facts could become a priority. We held an awareness of how our hard work took effect. There might be times when a person regret spending years doing nothing productive. Therefore, a mature adult would try to make up for it or change up their lifestyle for goods. It is the time that we learned to maintain the balance between good and bad time.


As you may already know. each person has the right to be in complete control of their own life. Hence, every decision we’ve made are held upon us. In a level, we have no one to truly rely on because we are the one that we should be depending on. Furthermore, being able to work independently is a must. It help us to avoid having fear and take risks to new things. Knowing what we need and want can helps us to provide a solution for when we face a problem. For example, when an international student came to the United States, he or she learns to adapt to a complete new lifestyle based off of their decisions and existing skills. Letting others alter your dependence.


In conclusion, there is no precise timing of when we actually become an adult. It is the matter of how we grow into that role. Furthermore, adulthood is mainly the capability to live independently in a responsible way. It’s become the stage when we learn from our mistakes while cultivating into our new life. We may also find people often quoting “Failure is the first step towards success”. The milestone of a child going into adulthood is a huge step, especially
when it means facing the society in a mature mindset.



~~Kate Chan



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